Wednesday, February 14, 2007

so do YOU snore too?

I have snored for years and years.

Impacted sinus cavities, sleep studies(no sleep apnea), and not one but TWO sinus surgeries later...I still snore like no other....from first eye shut to last Z.

How do I know?
1)First dh used to wake me up and tell me to move to another room.
2)My kids used to wake me up and tell me to leave the living room, they can't hear the television.
3)I HEAR MYSELF SNORING, how bad is that?!

I've tried the throat sprays, jury will be forever "out". New dh says my snoring doesn't bother him, he rarely hears it and if he does he can nudge me and I'll stop. (I of course have NO recollection of the nudge, lol.) Sometimes I think he isn't fully divulging but he has only left the bedroom once in 2.5 years, and he is a VERY light sleeper. *sigh*

So fess up...how bad is it? How horrible is it for you if your dh makes the racket? Do you fuss at each other because of it? Does the 2nd bedroom solve it all? Isn't that akward?

22 comments:

Erika said...

It doesn't matter if I snore 'cause no one is around to hear it! lol. I THINK I only mostly do it when I'm stuffed up.

leyna said...

Snoring can be a huge problem, several years ago my now ex and i were living in an tiny one bedroom apartment, the only way to set the bed in the bedroom was against the adjoining wall to the apartment next door. luckily he worked nights most of the time but more then once the neighbors came over to complain about the noise, and it was his snoring. It was that loud, when he and i first split i had to have the tv going in the bedroom or it was too quiet and i could not sleep.

Shelina said...

One night, when I was living at home, I had a nightmare. When I woke up from it, I heard snoring. I tried to identify the source, and it seemed like almost every member of my family was snoring. It made me feel like everybody was safe and happy and resting, so I was able to go back to sleep.
I think it is in the attitude - if you consider it noise, it will bother you, but if you consider it a song by your loved ones, then you can be lulled back to sleep.

Vivian Love said...

Thank God for my iPod. My husband is a 'snorer' and I wasn't getting any sleep with the noise. Then I started sleeping with my iPod in my ears. I am lulled to sleep by soothing British accents on the BBC as I listen to "National Public Radio." If the snoring is worse, then I try & take a nap during the day...just a cat nap though...too much quilting to get done. :) --VivianLove

Leah S said...

I wouldn't have a clue! Ahh, the joys of being deaf. ;) So he can snore til the windows rattle, and I don't care. He said that I do snore a bit when I'm stuffy.

Mrs. Goodneedle said...

My husband doesn't snore but we used to have a little dog that did! ;)

paula, the quilter said...

We both do. My allergies do it to me.

Rian said...

It's pretty bad. Or so I'm told...

Teri said...

None of my friends have ever told ME that I snore when we go to quilt things together.. my husband says I do.. my husband does. It doesn't matter if he is on his back or side. I have worn very nice snug earplugs for several years. And I don't lose any sleep because of snoring.

Jane Ann said...

Snoring first prompted the use of a sound machine (white noise). Then snoring put us into separate beds. We had a huge bedroom with 2 identical queen-size beds. It looked like a room at Ho-Jo's.

Then I came home one evening to find his bed moved into a spare bedroom. I sobbed and thought our marriage was over. I was sleep-deprived and he was tired of the abuse. After a while I realized it probably saved our marriage. He and his golf buddies (all of whom sleep separate from their wives) joke "Once you leave, you'll never go back!"

Sorry, Shelina, attitude has nothing to do with it. Slow, consistent, steady snoring? Maybe I could feel soothed. But violent gagging, punctuated by frightening seconds of total silence and occasional wailing would have ruined even Mother Theresa's attitude. (Okay, bad example--she was celibate and wouldn't have been sleeping with Don anyway.)

With allergies and a deviated septum, my snoring has gotten pretty bad over the years. When we were first married I denied snoring until Don imitated me. It sounded exactly like my mother, so I knew he wasn't lying. I'm so embarrassed about it that I won't share a hotel room with anyone but him. And you don't want to know the things he said to me during the middle of the night in Paducah last October! He burst out laughing when I told him the next morning (he had no memory), but I sure wasn't laughing.

I know very few people past 50 who share a bedroom. I used to keep it secret, but I just don't sweat it any more. (Obviously.) He has always refused any medical treatment. (It's not a problem to him, right?)

Jane Ann said...

P.S. The only way we can travel is for me to use earplugs. Which is a very strange sensation.

kjquilts said...

Fitzy, I'm laughing because I'm in the upstairs bedroom and my DH is in the downstairs bedroom. I'm the snore-er (sleep apnea). I don't wake myself up but I have heard a video tape of myself and I was LOUD! LOL! I can't wear the machine because it feels like a leaf blower got stuck up my nose.

Granny Fran said...

We both snore; Joe is a light sleeper and I usually have no problem sleeping. We have had separate bedrooms for several years now, which works very well for both of us. When we visit any of the kids and have to share a bed, it is pure torture. Even what sleep we get is not restoring.

He also goes to bed early, and gets up late, while I am up quilting (in my bedroom) for all hours, and don't do mornings. After years of forcing my square peg into the office hours routine round hole, it is a great relief to me to be able to let my body do it's own thing.

Granny Fran said...

Oh dear, I wish I could edit my comments sometimes.

I meant that Joe gets up EARLY.

Flippytale Quilter said...

I know I snore, I've woken myself up to it. No DH to bug or be bugged by. But, just as bad, my cat snores, I've had to wake him up just to get him to stop!!! Who knew such a small creature could make such a racket!

Holly said...

My DH snores but if I fall asleep before him I don't hear it. I will sleep on the couch from time to time because of his snoring. He says I snore, too, especially if I lay on my back, which I usually don't. I flip from side to side. I absolutely cannot sleep on my stomach. I snore more on the right side than the left - don't know why. In any case, we don't fuss. I keep a rag quilt by the couch so all we need is our pillow and we're set.

Fun posts!

P.S. You asked me how many fabric boxes. My stash is small but I seem to have a lot of baskets and things :) How's your move going?

Lois R. said...

Sorry to hear about the snoring. I know it can be very hard on the non-snoring partner. Glad your hubby tolerates it well.

PS. thanks for the visit to my blog!

Samantha said...

Snoring has come close to breaking up our marriage. Really! My DH snores something awful. He's tried every OTC and home remedy, to no avail. His rd sent him in for surgery, which has made it better, but not good. Sigh. It's a good thing I love him.

Kay said...

My husband snored so loudly that everyone in the house was bothered. Turns out he was diagnosed with sleep apnea and has used a CPAP (continuous positive air pressure) machine for the last five or six years. It is a miracle; he sleeps well, and I do too, since the machine is a kind of white noise that actually masks other sounds. You said you'd been tested, and so you're ok, but I just really want to stress that snoring is not trivial if it's a sign of sleep apnea--that's a dangerous condition.

Beth said...

Okay, I'll confess that my 2 year old (who is now almost 12)at the time came up to me asleep on the couch and said, "Mommy, stop making that noise!" But I didn't investigate until last year when Hunnybunny begged me to go get a sleep study done. Turned out I had severe sleep apnea. Who knew? Now I look like Darth Vader (And sound like him, too!) but I sleep like the dead. And I don't wake myself up anymore.

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Anonymous said...

my snoring is so bad i can be up stairs in the fartest bedroom aware and my family can be in the livingroom across the house down the stairs and with the tv on and they can hear me, I am told they throw things at me to get me to stop (gotta love family) and i still snore, I tend not to snore if i sleep on my stomach but i eventually roll over since i am most comfortable on my back, i so wish there was something i could do to not snore, its funny but eventually after you have your whole family making fun of it and your friends wanting to kill you after having to stay in the same hotel room with you for more then 3 nights,it gets a little annoying and very hard to deal with, i just dont know what to say to them i just laugh but it does upset me.