Friday, November 28, 2008

Finding Lost Loved Ones

Back in the day, you could blame distance for lack of communication. Remember when Grandma would call and you would really hustle to talk “LONG DISTANCE?”

How many of you have lost communication with someone you held dear because of elapsing time? Some one moves away, you loose a phone number, delete a phone message in error. Any number of things can get away, not to mention family crisis, divorce, and the obligatory responses.

If you don’t already fear it, the internet is your friend, your ally.

Fifteen years ago, my Venezuelan son went missing. (Figuratively) I managed 6 counties for Youth For Understanding, and Oscar was my exchange student placement in my home. During the year he was in our home, our whole family fell in love with this boy, etching his place in our heart forever. Returning to Venezuela was our last real contact with him. The phone system was less than idealic, he would call and virtually yell, “MOM??” The line would promptly go dead. It’d ring again, we’d answer, it’d go dead. Ultimately VERY depressing, we wanted and needed to connect, but never did.

We’ve never forgotten this sweet boy.

Thru the years I’ve resorted to reading Venezuelan phonebooks. I don’t speak Spanish, lol, but I would not be deterred. I even looked in their Yellow Pages under both of his parent’s professions. Blah.

I have searched thru AOL’s database, ICQ database, Yahoo’d, Google’d, and come up empty-handed.

Dd#2 encouraged me to sign onto Facebook a few months back. Mmmm…a new database I could utilize. I did search his name, with no success.

A few nights ago I had the brilliant idea to search for Oscar’s younger and older sister’s names. Several entries appeared, but lo and behold, one sister’s “friend” list contained the other sister’s name.

I.was.speechless. I eagerly sent an identical message to both possibilities, and the younger sister wrote back immediately. She gave me Oscar’s email address, and I have no reconnected with our sweet MAN. OMG, he’s married! He’s got 2 little girls! He’s all grown up! (How did that happen?)

I also helped another blogger find some missing friends. The world may be big, but I’ve been shown once again, just how very small it really is.

On another note, look a few posts back, and go to my dd#2’s blog. She has another contest!


Anonymous said...

I found my son on the internet. He and I both moved around the same time and we lost each others address and didn't connect for a whole lot of years (this was in the days before internet). One of the first things I did when we got "wired" was to search him out on I think it was Bigfoot or one of those, and there he was. I have found long-lost friends of 30+ years also. Kinda cool.

And I think of my blogging pals as extended family. They all mean a lot to me and I consider myself blessed to have so many friends around the world...that I would not have without the internet.

Jules said...

I just got on Facebook and found some missing friends, too. It is interesting how we all turned out...

Anonymous said...

What a great story! I'm going on vacation for two weeks and am seriously considering buying a laptop (about which I know nothing) JUST because I hate to be without the internet for so long. I admit I'm hooked, but I don't think that's such a bad thing. I love my internet friends--like you!

Tanya Brown said...
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Tracey @ozcountryquiltingmum said...

That's a great story, I've recently started on Facebook and can't believe who is coming out of the's fine when you want them, but there is often a good reason some were lost!! Tracey